Behaviour Management

Interventions in the Home

Behaviour Modification Plan
(Adapted from: Julian Stuart Haber, M.D.: ADHD: The Great Misdiagnosis)

  • Tackle one behaviour at a time.
  • Track progress.
  • Decide on an appropriate reward.
  • Expect inconsistent results.
  • Get the teacher's cooperation.
  • Don't get discouraged.
  • Praise every success.

Which Behaviour ?

What does your child need to change

  • to make life easier for him/her?
  • to make life easier for you?
  • to make life easier for his/her siblings?

Address One Behaviour

What does your child need to do to be able to participate successfully in life? (the bottom line).

A Plan That Works

Ask Yourself:

  • What do I want my child to do that s/he isn't doing?
  • How can I give instructions in a visual format?
  • What would make it worthwhile for her/him?

Track Progress

Ideal Procedure:

  • Point out the annoying behaviour.
  • State the expected behaviour.
  • Compliment the improved behaviour.
  • Reward it.

Allow for Lapses

  • Focus on improved behaviour, not on lapses!
  • Be specific about the reason for the reward.
  • Allow for lapses when visiting or on holiday.
  • Make an effort to point out improvements as they occur.

Get Teacher(s) Involved

  • Tell your child's teacher(s) which behaviour you are trying to improve.
  • Ask them to praise your child when s/he shows improvement in this area.
  • Reward your child for these improvements too.

Don't Give Up !

  • It is normal not to see much change for a few weeks.
  • Children know how to read their parents.
  • Don't play the "waiting game" with them!
  • Be consistent and you will see improvement.

Praise Every Success

  • Watch carefully for improvement, even if it's not perfect, and give praise.
  • Compliment your child on successes in this area at school and other places.
  • Decide on the most worthwhile reward at the outset.
  • Don't forget to observe your child's behaviour and notice improvements

What Not To Do!

  • Don't stop the behaviour plan when you are on holidays.
  • Don't avoid getting help if you can't enforce a behavioural plan yourself.
  • Don't expect your child to be able to explain his/her undesired behaviour.

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